I try to remind myself of this quote everyday. When I think back about my own youth I know how true this statement is. We remember how safe we felt, the love and warmth our caregivers gave us.
I was speaking to my Mom today and she was talking about her reaction to my niece purchasing a hundred dollar app on her phone. She was calm and understanding when she figured out from where the charge came. She then went on to say "I would've reacted differently back when you were that age". I would have to agree, but things were different when I was a child. I could tell she had feelings of guilt with this statement, but often parents are struggling just to make ends meet and a hundred dollar charge to a credit or debit card would have been the difference between eating and working for the next few weeks.
I remember feeling loved unconditionally. I never questioned my safety. Those are the things that mattered.
Three things I have learned while being a parent:
It's that time again, Summer Camp! I know that every year my girls can't wait for camp to arrive. For me it is a much harder experience; knowing they are not close to home and I am not in charge of their safety it is hard to let go and place them in the hands of others.
While at the park today I watched as the children ran, interacted, laughed and eventually someone got hurt. Oh, the joys of being at the park with friends and mom or dad close by. When children are learning their limits, as a parent it is hard to know exactly what is safe for children and what is unsafe. We have to allow safe explorations and yes, sometimes we get an owie.
I saw a little girl playing on the playground and all of a sudden she fell...
As parents we often wonder if we are doing it right? Are we going to mess up our children? We often focus on the times we may have not made the best parenting choices.
I think we should all take some time to think about the positive parenting choices we have made in the last couple days. What have you done to enrich your child's life? Don't forget to praise your children, but also don't forget to praise yourself. You are a role-model for your children and that includes how you treat yourself and others around you. Parenting is the most difficult job you will ever have, but it is also the most worth it.
Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~Elizabeth Stone